Sex Geek Thoughts

A poster board for some brain splatter for a nerdy little sex geek. Topics include consent vs. rape culture, bdsm, general Sex Ed ruminations. This blog should generally be considered NSFW, but I will try to tag explicit content.

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Fosters.com: State rep. starts petition against UNH sex workers conference →

marginalutilite:

DOVER — New Hampshire state representative Joe Sweeney, R-N.H., has started a petition to raise support and start asking questions as to who approved using student activity money for a mini-sex workers conference at the University of New Hampshire in April.

“I think it’s an atrocity that our students brought prostitutes to our campus,” said Sweeney, who represents Rockingham County District 8.

Sweeney posted the petition on his Facebook page and the petition was also sent to media outlets by Americans for Prosperity’s state director, Greg Moore, who wrote in an email that he “couldn’t agree more,” with Sweeney.

The mini-conference spanned throughout the day on Tuesday, April 16, starting with a documentary and ending with a 7 p.m. panel discussion on the rights of sex workers.

Moore sent a Right to Know request to the university earlier this week to make public the cost of the event and is expecting to receive documentation from them on Monday.

Meanwhile, Kitty Stryker, one of the conference speakers, has started a counterpetition against the state rep. “I think it’s an atrocity that our students brought prostitutes to our campus,” said Rep. Joe Sweeney, despite the fact that only one of them may have been a full service worker, and the fact that one of them was a current UNH student and one a former UNH student, so no one really went out of their way to “bring” them to campus.

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Men and women are misogynistic for different reasons: men to marginalize women, and women to ingratiate themselves with the men trying to marginalize them. Neither one is justifiable, but one is oppressive and the other is a (bad) strategy to deal with that oppression. One thus sees that if the men who are misogynists weren’t, the women who are misogynists wouldn’t have any reason to be. Ergo, exhorting women to stop being misogynists so that men will stop gets it precisely backwards.

http://www.shakesville.com/2010/01/feminism-101.html (via pomegranateblood)

THIS THING RIGHT HERR.

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  • Woman: I'm smart
  • Patriarchy: Well you're probably ugly then
  • Woman: I'm creative
  • Patriarchy: You mean unattractive right?
  • Woman: I have all these incredible accomplishments
  • Patriarchy: Yeah but look how ugly you looked doing them
  • Woman: I have value
  • Patriarchy: Not if you're ugly lol
  • Woman: I'm conventionally-attractive & posted selfies on my blog
  • Patriarchy: I'm so sick of these empty-headed chicks only caring about their looks. Just because you are attractive and get attention from men doesn't mean you are special or deserve respect. Why don't you read a book or do something productive with your life you dumb slut
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souryellows: one down, three to go

souryellows:

one down, three to go

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prudeboy: skysquids: so here is what happens to me when we do the ‘urinals’ vs ‘no urinals’ bathroom setup.  it becomes an opportunity to out me, make assumptions about my genitals, essentialize my gender according to my birth sex, and push me into the men’s room.  this is actually what happens to me when we do this.  let’s not do this, ok?  spread the word. it’s just another way of saying “PENIS” OR “VAGINA” (choose yr own adventure!!!), just another form of cissexism & gender essentialism. the [maybe-]radical intent behind it doesn’t make it radical. Hmmm. That’s a good point. :( Disappointing, but a really good point. Spreading the word. (As an aside, I still don’t get why urinals are necessary. Aiming is hard?)

prudeboy:

skysquids:

so here is what happens to me when we do the ‘urinals’ vs ‘no urinals’ bathroom setup.  it becomes an opportunity to out me, make assumptions about my genitals, essentialize my gender according to my birth sex, and push me into the men’s room.  this is actually what happens to me when we do this.  let’s not do this, ok?  spread the word.

it’s just another way of saying “PENIS” OR “VAGINA” (choose yr own adventure!!!), just another form of cissexism & gender essentialism. the [maybe-]radical intent behind it doesn’t make it radical.

Hmmm. That’s a good point. :( Disappointing, but a really good point. Spreading the word.


(As an aside, I still don’t get why urinals are necessary. Aiming is hard?)

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Riding bikes everywhere? Using recyclable diapers? Carpooling? We’ve been doing that in Eritrea for decades. Where’s our reward for saving the Earth? Why aren’t we plastered all over Time magazine? If we lived in the same disgusting, gluttonous fashion that Americans lived, this planet would no longer be able to sustain the human race. But yet, they blame the world’s environmental ills on “overpopulation” (code: poor brown people existing) and then usurp our lifestyle habits, trademark it as their own and pat themselves on the back for doing the bare minimum. How convenient of such a narcissistic nation.
My uncle, upon learning about America’s “new Green Movement”. Obviously, he’s not impressed. (via eastafrodite)

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sexistfacebookdudes: It never occurs to these guys that *they* are the jerk/dick/asshole/bad guy, and women *are* avoiding them for actual nice guys… Really, what they want is happening but they just dont realize *they’re* the guys they don’t want women to be with.

sexistfacebookdudes:

It never occurs to these guys that *they* are the jerk/dick/asshole/bad guy, and women *are* avoiding them for actual nice guys… Really, what they want is happening but they just dont realize *they’re* the guys they don’t want women to be with.

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racismschool:

May is National Masturbation Month: Let’s do this people. 

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ari-withtheredhair:

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theresnorevolution:

Are you fucking kidding me? There were about 20 more of these and I didn’t even look through a quarter of the comments.

TW RAPE

I know it’s not at all the worst part, but I got hung up on the ‘if you walked in and saw this in your bed’ bit… this. Not she, not this person, not them. Anyway. All these people are potential rapists:

Welp. So about that idea that “people wouldn’t admit that they would rape!” thing…

Although I can’t help wondering how much of this, especially being social media, is about posturing for a perceived masculinity— The situation is obviously set up with an assumed answer, and if any of these guys actually said, “go sleep on the couch” or something, I imagine that would be perceived as a “failure” to be appropriately masculine.

(Which is not an argument against them being potential rapists, BECAUSE THEY ARE.)

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The shift in nomenclature toward an “LGBT” community, rather than a “queer” one, marked the beginning of a new phase in the social history of sexual and gender identity politics in the United States. It represented a retreat from the more radical concept of alliance, resistance, and rebellion by the different groups against the same oppressive structures in the dominant culture and the adoption instead of a liberal model of minority tolerance and inclusion—sometimes amounting to little more than a “politically correct” gesture of token inclusion.
Susan Stryker on the tokenization of transgender people in the retreat from “queer” of the 1990s.—Transgender History, 2008, pg. 137 (via artemariposa)

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